You've provided reasonable expectations. Despite these, more attractive and high-value men get plenty of options and might have certain age preferences for women (e.g., 24-30), especially if they're planning to start a family.

If they're attractive and successful, they know they've got options.

Despite the 2:1 or 3:1 ratio of men to women on these apps, it's less likely to find the highly sought-after men (who aren't just DTF) on these apps.

https://martinvidal.medium.com/dating-apps-are-setting-men-and-women-up-for-failure-but-for-different-reasons-f56ab44d2c71

What's the solution? IMO it's probably best to meet people at social events relating to one's hobbies and interests.

I've heard mixed experiences about singles events, but they're still better than dating apps.